In an effort to be a good Christian, it is possible for the believer to sacrifice his own integrity. It is also possible that when a person becomes a Christian, he brings with him certain traits that cause him to depend on others for his own emotional state. If we are to trust God and trust our own spiritual instincts, we must beware of what we bring into our relationship with God, the church, and other believers. In fact, this practice might unknowingly give the wrong impression of what it is to be a servant of the Lord. Here is a list of danger signs that say, “I am not complete in the Lord and in the kind of person I have become through him.”
My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked and approves by you.
Your struggles affect my peace. My attention focuses on solving your problems, relieving your pain, sometimes at a cost to myself.
My attention is focused on pleasing you without giving consideration about what pleases me as I attempt to live by the Word of God.
My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems and your pain while ignoring the power of prayer for both of us.
My own interests are put aside, even church, to share in your interests and habits.
I am unaware of what I want, spiritually or materially, because I need to ask your opinion.
The dreams I have for my future are linked to yours, even if they’re worldly.
I have a high sensitivity against the fear of your rejection or anger which determines what I say or do. Therefore, I may not witness to you or show I care about your own eternal future.
I use giving to tell myself that I am safe in the relationship I have with you or God.
My interaction with other believers diminishes the more I have involved myself with you.
I put my Christian values aside in order to not offend you and make a connection with you.
Because I value your opinion, my spiritual standing diminishes more and more.
The quality of my life and the depth of my spiritual growth is sacrificed to the quality of your ambition for the material world instead of being faithful to God spiritual expectations.
Christian Writer 