Name _____________ Section ____ Date _______
WELLNESS WORKSHEET 32
Sternberg’s Triangular Love Scale
Read each of the following statements, filling in the blank spaces with the name of one person you love or
care for deeply. Rate your agreement with each statement according to the following scale,and enter the appropriate number between 1 and 9.
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Not at all Moderately Extremely
_ 1. I am actively supportive of _____’s well-being.
_ 2. I have a warm relationship with _____.
_ 3. I am able to count on _____ in times of need.
_ 4. _____ is able to count on me in times of need.
_ 5. I am willing to share myself and my possessions with _____.
_ 6. I receive considerable emotional support from _____.
_ 7. I give considerable emotional support to _____.
_ 8. I communicate well with _____
_ 9. I value _____ greatly in my life.
_ 10. I feel close to _____.
_ 11. I have a comfortable relationship with _____.
_ 12. I feel that I really understand _____.
_ 13. I feel that _____ really understands me.
_ 14. I feel that I can really trust _____.
_ 15. I share deeply personal information about myself with _____.
_ 16. Just seeing ______ excites me.
_ 17. I find myself thinking about ______ frequently during the day.
_ 18. My relationship with _____ is very romantic.
_ 19. I find _____ to be very personally attractive.
_ 20. I idealize _____.
_ 21. I cannot imagine another person making me as happy as _____ does.
_ 22. I would rather be with _____ than with anyone else.
_ 23. There is nothing more important to me than my relationship with _____.
_ 24. I especially like physical contact with _____.
_ 25. There is something almost “magical” about my relationship with _____.
_ 26. I adore _____.
_ 27. I cannot imagine life without _____.
_ 28. My relationship with _____ is passionate.
_ 29. When I see romantic movies and read romantic books, I think of _____.
_ 30. I fantasize about ______.
_ 31. I know that I care about _____.
_ 32. I am committed to maintaining my relationship with _____.
_ 33. Because of my commitment to ______, I would not let other people come between us.
_ 34. I have confidence in the stability of my relationship with _____.
_ 35. I could not let anything get in the way of my commitment to _____.
_ 36. I expect my love for _____ to last for the rest of my life.
_ 37. I will always feel a strong responsibility for _____.
_ 38. I view my commitment to _____ as a solid one.
_ 39. I cannot imagine ending my relationship with _____.
_ 40. I am certain of my love for _____.
_ 41. I view my relationship with ______ as permanent.
_ 42. I view my relationship with _____ as a good decision.
_ 43. I feel a sense of responsibility toward _____.
_ 44. I plan to continue my relationship with _____.
_ 45. Even when _____ is hard to deal with, I remain committed to our relationship.
Scoring
Psychologist Robert Sternberg sees love as being composed of three components: intimacy, passion, and
commitment. The first 15 items in the scale reflect intimacy, the second 15 measure passion, and the final 15
reflect commitment. Add up your scores for each group of 15 items. Find the scores closest to your three
totals in the appropriate column below to determine the degree to which you experience each of these three
components of love.
Intimacy Passion Commitment
(Items 1–15) (Items 16–30) (Items 31–45)
93 73 85 Significantly below average
102 85 96 Somewhat below average
111 98 108 Average
120 110 120 Somewhat above average
129 123 131 Significantly above average
According to Sternberg, high scores in all three components would indicate consummate love. However,
uneven or low scores do not necessarily mean that a relationship is not strong: All relationships have ups and
downs, and the nature of a relationship may change over time.
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